Hello! I hope everyone is having a nice week so far! It actually started feeling like fall over the weekend, but I don’t know if I’m ready yet! I did try a new pumpkin beer by New Belgium (Voodoo Ranger Spicy Pumpkin) which was a little happy reminder why fall is great 🙂 I also plan on making a Thrive Market order to amp up my baking supplies to get lots of good smells going on in the house to brighten up colder days.

I received both a Wantable and Stitch Fix box this weekend! I haven’t had the best of luck with Stitch Fix but their customer service has been really wonderful so I thought I would give them another try. Then I started getting Instagram ads for Wantable’s September Denim Fix so I figured why not try them both!

I’ve spent a lot of time playing Stitch Fix’s Style Game through their app (mostly because of boredom…) and I feel the game is honing more in on my style. One of my recent stylists said while the game is helpful it’s still not fully integrated into their system for stylists to properly utilize so my fixes might not integrate results from the game.

Wantable’s website has a similar questionnaire and the you can go through and ‘Stream’ options that you might be sent and dislike them if necessary. Honestly, it’s very similar to Stitch Fix, but they seem to send 7 items instead of 5 and they also have different themes that you can sign up for (i.e. the Denim Edit).

I learned a few things after opening up both of my fixes. 1) I’m super picky 2) I’m better at knowing what I don’t want, instead of what I do want 3) because I don’t have a ton of clothes, I want to love the items, instead of just like them. Because I’m not great at knowing what I want, I’m realizing my fixes aren’t coming back as super successful. To be fair though this is the best Stitch Fix I’ve received in a while. The colors and general styles are more up my alley, just not necessarily what I’m looking for right now. I also generally liked the colors and styles of my Wantable fix, but didn’t love the way the items fit me.

I’m going to keep one shirt, one pair of jeans, and a pair of earrings from these fixes. I’ll probably keep ordering fixes every quarter as well to keep working on focusing what I want, instead of focusing on the negatives of what I don’t want. I think learning what you want is giving yourself space and support to look at the positives and not put so much pressure on what other people might think; not make it such a big decision.

I really struggle with knowing what I want, from simple things like what to eat for breakfast, and more important things like what my goals are for the next five years. I really think, as weird as it sounds, that these fixes showcase my struggle with this. I think I’m struggling with this more and more, and this year has just amplified the issue. I’m more focused on the things I know I don’t like which leads me to miss out on lots of opportunities. I second guess everything I do: the things I like, what I want from life, what other people are thinking. This tends to lead me to be a ‘follower’ instead of a ‘leader’ and ultimately letting others dictate what I end up doing, decisions I make, or how I spend my free time.

I’m honestly not sure how to work on this, but for now I’ll keep taking baby steps to push myself outside my comfort zone, speak up when something is important, and be more comfortable ‘going along for the ride’ until I’m ready to forge my own path. If anyone has any tips on this, feel free to comment below!

Have a great week everyone!